I've been doing some intense Inner Child work. Doing the remembering in deep trance so the mental mind can't interfere. Where did the Inner Child hear words that are influencing us right now? Age 3? When was she/he found not to be so lovable? When did the job/relationship become difficult and criticizing began? I invite you to love that Inner Child and perhaps come in for a session to walk you back in time were she/he was found to be not so lovable and heal that.